To Be Able To Unite

People want to be appreciated, loved, and proven right.

They want the other person to like them.

That's not enough, they also want to be respected.

A woman, a man, and a child wants to be loved.

Every person wants attention, and affection...

 

Some people chase fame and popularity.

Some people chase houses, cars, motorcycles, or summer houses…

Some people spend their lives chasing a man.

Some people spend their lives chasing a woman they made the only meaning of their lives!

Some mothers see their children as if they were their only owner,

They spend their whole lives devoting themselves to them.

Some people put their work at the center of their lives, while some put their homes or cars.

 

Maybe it's not just about what oneself want!

Maybe in relationships, it's about what the other person needs!

 

Maybe a teenager needs you not to enter his room!

Maybe a man needs to be seen off at the door when he leaves early in the morning,

Maybe a woman needs to just be able to rest,

A child needs to just be able to joke around.

 

Think of a secretary who is fighting with the patients because of the busy X-ray queue.

When everyone is holding her responsible, at the most tired and frustrated moment...

Suffocated and cramped among those who say, “When will my turn come?”

Maybe when you understand his state, your situation will suddenly become understandable...

Being able to say, “You really have a hard job. Dealing with so many people requires serious patience.” will be useful.

 

Imagine going into a gas station and intending to pay for fuel.

The woman mopping the floors has mopped the entrance and the floors are wet...

While you are concentrating on to pay and leave, maybe you have the right to go inside with muddy shoes...

Maybe you should think that “If this place is going to get muddy with everyone who enters, this woman won’t be able to finish this place until morning!”

 

Maybe it's not just about what oneself want!

Maybe in relationships, it's about what the other person needs!

 

Sometimes it's just sympathizing.

Making someone feel that you understand...

Understanding that they are tired even if you are not...

Being able to smile because they care even if you don't care.

Sometimes it's to be able to say "Good job!" to a misshapen picture a child has drawn,

Sometimes to a woman trying to learn how to cook,

Sometimes to a young girl trying to iron a shirt for the first time.

 

Sometimes all someone expects is just a thank you.

Sometimes a prayer…

To a shop assistant who cares for you,

To a person who gives the right of way,

To a person who holds the elevator,

To a person who gives you a sip of water.

 

Instead of being interested in a gift that comes on your birthday, maybe it's to thank the person who brought the gift.

It's to appreciate labor.

Maybe it's to not say "I'm on a diet" to a woman who makes manti as a gesture for her family from morning till night in the summer, while she's still wearing a floured T-shirt...

It's to not say "This is all pointless work" to a woman who's been trying to make tarhana for 3 days.

Maybe it's to say "You've worked all day, you must be tired" and make coffee for your neighbor.

It's to say "Come on, leave the dishes, I'll do them" to your wife.

 

It is to understand her needs and difficulties.

It is to be able to say, “Come on, you’re late, I’ll clean up.”

“You have exams tomorrow, I’ll clean up the table.”

It is to say, “You look pale today, lie down.”

 

Maybe it's to give a ride to an acquaintance who's walking home from the market with a bag in their hand...

Maybe it's to get your neighbor to the airport who can't find a taxi in the rain.

 

Sometimes it is not right for a person to do everything he wants.

Sometimes it is to be useful to someone else.

To be able to sell a needed good,

To be able to feed a hungry household,

To be able to heal a sick person or an animal,

To be able to understand the reason for the sleeplessness of that person,

To be able to benefit someone.

 

Maybe it's not just about what oneself want!

Maybe in relationships, it's about what the other person needs!

 

Maybe the whole point is that my needs are met as long as I meet the needs of others!

The point is not what I want, but to be able to unite with those around me.

 

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                      Experiential Design Teachings and Decision-Making Themed Blog

Experiential Design Teachings aim to give purpose to a person's life.

To be happy and successful in life...

"Since the existence of humankind on Earth, the greatest friend and foe have never changed. The person in the mirror..." 

Yahya Hamurcu 

Who’s Who? The Art of Understanding People 
Mastery in Relationships 
The Psychology of Success
Mastery in Avoidance
Designer (Strategy Design)

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