One Must Be a Good Version of Himself

People want to bring into their lives those they perceive as “good” in order to beautify their own lives. This concept of “good” may vary: for some, it might mean being wealthy; for others, popular, tolerant, or successful. With this belief, people try to “buy into” what they consider good. They think having such people in their lives will make them a better version of one-self. Yet, most of the time, they pursue this not to bring goodness to others, but to have goodness brought to them. As a result, people end up experiencing many of their emotions and feelings through others.

They believe they need a good spouse to be happy, a good friend to enjoy life, a good companion to confide in and relax with, and a good job to succeed. Their efforts and anxieties are shaped around these beliefs.

But is this truly how it should be? Do we really reach a certain point in life based on what we possess or can attain? Is what determines our happiness really what we can buy, charm, or include in our lives? Are those who reach a good place in life, those with high motivation, abundance, and hopefulness truly the ones who managed to “get the good”? Or are we perhaps mistaken here too?

A person may win many things or people. However, all of these are neutral elements that exist in the external world. At the end of the day, it is the individual who assigns meaning to them—placing them positively or negatively within their inner world and generating feelings accordingly. The person they spend the most time with, are most influenced by in their judgments, and are most triggered by in good or bad situations, is again themselves. The problems they experience begin to take on different meanings in this way.

People may also lose many things or individuals. Yet for someone who has become a good version of themselves, even what they lose works in their favor. Because for someone who is truly “good,” only good things will begin to find their way to them. But it is those who once said, “Let me truly become good,” instead of “Let the good come to me,” who truly deserve the best. And this requires and brings about many things.

In this light, what gains importance is how much character one can cultivate, how much they can choose what is right in their decisions and reactions, and how strong they can become—both in the tangible and intangible.

To be someone who can be happy on their own, who finds great joy even in doing something seemingly simple... To be someone who doesn’t react instantly to every situation, who realizes even their hardships are speaking to them and tries to give the right response... To begin the journey not to “receive” but to “give”... To be the kind of person in relationships who brings vitality, motivation, hope, joy for life, who lifts others with method and care... Sometimes to be the sun that shows the way, sometimes the water that nurtures, sometimes the wind that pushes forward with momentum... And no matter where or with whom, to put in the effort so others can become a better version of themselves too...

This is how a person becomes beautiful. As they give in this way, they gather all the beauty within themselves. And the more they gather, the more they become a good version of themselves.

People tend to focus on buying what is good and beautiful. Yet, one must first be a good version of themselves. Because everything one experiences is ultimately about themselves. So, shall we set out this time to become a better version of ourselves?

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"Since the existence of humankind on Earth, the greatest friend and foe have never changed. The person in the mirror..." 

Yahya Hamurcu 

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